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Ok, hands down, one of my favorite topics – how to get people to want you.

Let me break it down into two areas where I see desperation the most.

  • How to get people to want your business products or services
  • How to attract a partner in life

Yeah, Boss, I’m going there.

Attraction is a funny thing. When we want something, we risk repelling it if we desperately seek what it is. Typical ‘Law of Attraction’ stuff, I know, but most people really don’t understand the concept at all.

To truly be a ‘manifestor’ or someone who attracts things, you have to let go of the outcome you are seeking and sort of…forget about it.

Sounds counterintuitive, but most of us spend WAY too much time controlling our circumstances to try to get an outcome we do not yet have. The reality is, we repel the outcome we want by being in desperation for that thing.

You can’t attract when you are trying to make something happen out of a commitment that you do not have it, because from this place you will only behave like someone who needs things.

You will behave in a needy way.

In seeking what we want desperately, we also repel freedom.

Freedom is just a feeling. It does not exist unless we feel it from the inside.

A free person is assured that they will receive what they seek, and thus they are confident.

When you are confident, you act different, you become magnetic…literally.

As soon as people just chill out and be who they are, clients and love interests usually find them.

So how do you turn off the momentum you’ve created that takes you in the opposite direction that you want to go if you’ve been seeking something for a long time?

You have to stop giving energy to thinking you don’t have what you want, and start trusting that it’s already here.

All possibilities exist.

You have to ‘fake it until you make it’ and act like it’s already here.

Clients and mates like confident people who act as if they are already up to the task of being awesome. Because they ARE being awesome.

Worrying doesn’t create a result, but relaxing and acting as if you are the type of person that already has it does.

Why do we value ‘cool’ people so much?

Because their attractive freedom magnetizes people and opportunities toward them, as if they aren’t even trying.

I’ll go ahead a toot my own horn and say I’m pretty damn confident that I know the road map to cool very well.

And admittedly I can be a pretty dorky gal.

Being cool, confident, and magnetic is really as much about what you AREN’T as what you ARE.

When you have a clear self awareness and want yourself, then others naturally want you.

Edit the bullshit out of your life, and the magnetism gets even stronger.

I’ll spell it out in a few tips:

  • Stop any behaviors that commit to not having something, for example cutting coupons if you want to be rich or telling your friends how single you are if you want to meet someone
  • Start doing the things you would do if you had the things you want, like prepare an email sequence for the VIP clients you want to attract or buy some new clothes you want to go on dates in

In short, stop doing things that aren’t in alignment with who you want to be and start doing things that ARE in alignment with who you are.

What will happen? Organically some manifesting will happen, I promise.

But it’s not that easy, is it? If we are trapped in our heads, which offer blind spots.

For that you need a coach, and that’s how I learned it. I never go without one. And why would I when the results of being more me feel so good?

Holla by clicking below if you need some help with getting magnetic.


Happy Manifesting,

Michelle Andersen

Author Michelle Andersen

Michelle Andersen teaches and coaches motivated Self growth afficionados how to align with beauty to transform their lives. She is a multi-venture entrepreneur who helps her clients connect who they are with where thet are. Her other trands can be found at

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