One of the biggest ways entrepreneurs kill their business and personal lives is they give their power away to other people. This is a rampant plague in the business community because close-knit, codependent relationships are acceptable and many times the pride of a company’s or family’s ecosystem.
These relationships trap the two people by allowing both parties to shift blame onto each other.
In a business setting it’s often these themes that allow power to shift into the wrong hands. If you want to throw away your life and business, be sure to do some of these things:
- allow someone to not perform tasks according to their role
- enable the ‘sales’ person to avoid sales (especially if it’s you)
- allow an employee or client to push your boundaries
- depend on someone in your business for emotional and social support
- drink or do drugs for ‘networking’ or tolerate this behavior in others
- allow business problems to not get addressed by not taking charge
If these things are happening in your business, you have allowed an agreement of denial. These are just a few themes I lifted from situations I’ve observed and been in.
Extreme? No, these things happen all the time.
Personal Lives Suffer When Your Business Life Suffers
Unfortunately codependency, addiction, manipulation, and power struggles are very common in small businesses. I know about these themes deeply from trying to run my business during my previous marriage and guess what? I racked up a lot of debt and a lot of pain because my personal relationship was effecting my business life. Who I was being as a person was someone who didn’t have boundaries and tolerated a lot of other people’s shit. If you don’t want to throw away your life and business, don’t what I did.
In personal relationships, the themes are similar. When someone has dysfunctional themes that are tolerating in their work relationships, the themes carry over at home and in personal life.
People who are giving their power away in their personal life can experience:
- denial as to how bad a relationship really is
- fear and shame around what’s not working
- lack of intimacy
- a whole lot of manipulation and control
- enabling a partner to be out of control
- lots of lies, especially to one’s self
- a complete shame and guilt bath
- no real fun at all
Codependent relationships suck. I lived through most of those things. You know what I wasn’t going to allow? My life to keep sucking. It had to get way suckier before it got better, but it was SOOOOO worth it. That’s how I intimately know how easy it is for people to give their power away. The idea of changing the rules and getting it back can seem impossible. If you relate, I want you to know that hand to heart I love who you are now and who you want to be.
You’re the boss in your life and business, so be it!
It Take a Bold Person to Own All of Their Power
I’m exposing bold things and I don’t care who doesn’t like it. I love the potential in everyone way more than how many fucks I give about who likes me or not. Those power sucking & giving relationships people get in? I understand it. Sometimes you arrive there just because you didn’t know any better. I didn’t know any better when I formed my relationships that sucked me dry. But I got new information. I realized I didn’t need to be small.
It’s safer to stay small, isn’t it?
I’m not here to be a mamby pamby coach who tells you you’re doing a good job and helps you with your business plan. I am committed to your transformation, and I am a leader in that department. Shining light on your own shit is something you are going to want to get good at if you’re the boss.
If you need to get the hell out of where you are right now book a free discovery call and tell me what’s up. Click right here to schedule. I help people manifest the business of their dreams, whatever it takes.